When You're Ready

I have been thinking a lot about people's negativity towards new years resolutions. I myself do not make a "resolution" on New Years, as I have said before I am more of a "change maker" on my birthday. The birthday that celebrates "my" new year.

But the world makes new years resolutions and I have already heard people griping and whining about others attempts at "losing weight, again" with the annoyance/dread in their voice that says "you say you are going to do something, and you aren't."

The negativity and the condescending tone aggravates me to a high degree. So I am going to warn you all about this and give you a good coping mechanism for dealing with "nay sayers."

First of all, if this is truly your goal... to lose a few pounds, to eat healthier or exercise more-- I assure you loud and clear there are going to be at least a handful of people that try to stand in your way or at least be a bump in your road. People are afraid of you changing and the way it will affect them. I see it all the time in marriages. One partner is trying hard to "be good" while the other is putting a guilt trip on them for leaving to go to the gym, or for not eating this "treat" with them.

You have to make the decision to make a positive change in your life for yourself. If you are trying to lose weight, eat healthier, or exercise more for someone other than yourself, you need to check out another blog because you need some guidance counseling... and I got nothin up in that area for ya. If this is going to be your year, the year where you really stick to a new plan and change your lifestyle, it has to be a conscious decision based solely on your desire to be your best self. Nobody is going to get up at 5 am and hit the gym with you, nobody is going to take that sugar cookie or french fry out of your mouth, and nobody (regardless of what some may think) gives a crap how much the scale says when you step on it. YOU HAVE TO CARE.

So get yourself through the holiday and enjoy all that comes with the magic of Christmas. As my little children are getting so excited for the big day when Santa stops by and leaves a present and a stocking full of tinkers, I am reminded how special this time of year is. Believing in the magic and the good. I am enjoying every minute with my babies, realizing that they will only be 2 and 4 years old once. I am, and I recommend you, prepare yourself for when January 1st does get here to tighten up a bit, and maybe for some of you-- make some brand new changes that will enrich your life for years to come.

If people in your life are dragging you down and doubting you-- I recommend one of two things. Cross them off your list of people you surround yourself with, or use their doubt to fuel your ferocity in your new lifestyle. Remember, REMEMBER, health HAS to be a lifestyle. It can not be a "diet" because a diet dies, only a lifestyle can remain into the new year and for many new years to come.